We’re often told to cling to our heritage — to never forget our roots. Culture, tradition and values which are all deeply embedded in how we’re raised, especially in African homes. But when holding on to heritage means silencing important conversations, we have to ask: Are we also holding on to ignorance?
One of the clearest examples of this silence is around sex education. For many African parents, the idea of discussing sex, puberty, consent, or even body awareness with their children is uncomfortable — even unthinkable. These topics are brushed aside, labelled as “Western influence,” or avoided altogether under the guise of protecting innocence.
But silence doesn’t protect. It exposes.
In the absence of clear, factual, age-appropriate guidance from home, young people often turn to the internet, friends, or social media — spaces filled with misinformation, pressure, and unrealistic expectations. This lack of open communication can lead to early sexual activity, unsafe practices, unplanned pregnancies, and trauma that could’ve been prevented by simple conversations.
So why the silence?
For many, it’s cultural. Respect for elders, modesty, and religious values are often used to justify the discomfort. Parents were never taught how to talk about sex, so they simply continue the cycle. And because the subject is treated as shameful, many children grow up associating their own bodies and natural development with guilt.
But protecting culture shouldn’t mean ignoring progress. If we truly care about preserving our heritage, we also need to evolve with it. That means unlearning the fear around certain topics, and relearning how to guide our children through the realities of life — with empathy, truth, and trust.
Sex education isn’t about encouraging sex. It’s about understanding. It’s about knowing your body, respecting others, and making informed choices. When done right, it strengthens values — not weakens them.
We’re growing — changing — and so should our conversations. Holding on to silence and ignorance only puts us at risk of unnecessary pain and challenges. To truly protect our heritage and ourselves, we must face these tough topics head-on.
We owe it to the next generation to make space for the conversations we never had. Because what we don’t say at home often echoes louder in the world outside.
Let’s talk. What’s one topic you wish your family talked about more openly?
