Category: Lifestyle

Ever been scolded for the errors of your younger siblings? Being told you’re responsible. That is a concept I never understood. Do you know how hard it is to keep a younger sibling in check? It was like I was Jesus carrying the sins of somebody else. The weight of responsibility, the frustration, the guilt,…

Overcoming Self-Toxicity: Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk

For the longest time, I believed the hardest battles were the ones fought with people around me—the arguments, the misunderstandings, the heartbreaks. But over time, I realized that the most exhausting and relentless fight was the one happening inside my own head. My inner critic was my loudest, harshest enemy. It didn’t need to say much; just a quiet, constant drip of doubt and judgment that seeped into every part of my life.

Self-toxicity isn’t always about someone else being toxic to you. Sometimes, it’s about you being toxic to yourself. It’s that voice that criticizes your every move, tells you you’re not enough, that your best will never be good enough, and that mistakes are proof you should give up. It’s negative self-talk dressed up as “realism,” self-sabotage masquerading as self-care, and perfectionism disguised as discipline. And honestly, it’s exhausting.

Why do we become this way toward ourselves? For me, it’s rooted in fear. Fear of failing, fear of disappointing others, fear of never measuring up. Sometimes it’s the weight of past wounds—those moments when someone told me I wasn’t worth it, or when I internalized a small failure as a life sentence. Other times, it’s the pressure from society, from social media, from constant comparisons that whisper, “You must be flawless, productive, always on, and never vulnerable.”

In the world of computers, binary language is the foundation of all programming. A simple 0 or 1, yes or no, dictates the flow of information and decision-making processes. But what happens when we apply this binary thinking to human life? Do the complexities of human experience fit neatly into such sharp differences? As I…

Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries, prioritizing self-worth, and fostering healthy relationships. In this guide, we’ll explore the importance of saying no, its benefits, and how to implement it in your daily life. I vividly remember a podcast episode that struck a chord with me. A 23-year-old entrepreneur shared his story of…

At times, you want to be alone. Not lonely just alone. To silence the world around you and just be. This weekend, that’s exactly what I did. No Instagram. No WhatsApp. No endless scrolling. I logged out not just from the apps, but from the chaos. And it wasn’t some grand act of discipline or…

Have you ever noticed how sometimes, what someone’s body says is louder than their words? A quick glance, a crossed arm, or a subtle smile can reveal more about how a person feels than any conversation. Body language is a powerful tool that can convey emotions, intentions, and attitudes. The Power of Nonverbal Cues I…

There are lies we tell the world. But the most dangerous ones are the lies we tell ourselves—quiet, convenient, and often convincing enough to feel like truth. “I’m fine.” “It didn’t hurt.” “It doesn’t matter anymore.” We say them without flinching, sometimes even with a smile. Not because they’re true, but because they’re easier. Because…

I remember this day in particular. It was during our youth service in the church I fellowship. I don’t recall the preaching in full, but something caught my attention. The preacher stood at the pulpit, his eyes scanning through the congregation as he talked about soul ties. (I chuckled softly to myself.) I’ve never been…

Campus life—some say it’s just a phase, just four years to get through before the “real world.” But what if those years are more than just a timeline? What if they’re the quiet moments on a cold bench, the lost and found dreams, the battles with distraction, and the slow, sometimes messy, transformation of who…